tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post115316235839721845..comments2023-09-19T07:50:13.308-07:00Comments on Feminary: did i do right?Stasihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10864458542635159512noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1153349220646972132006-07-19T15:47:00.000-07:002006-07-19T15:47:00.000-07:00don't feel bad.i'm thinking about this in two ways...don't feel bad.<BR/>i'm thinking about this in two ways, the Office Wench way and the ChurchGal way.<BR/><BR/>Office Wench says this is just how business goes - potential employers are scared to death of even the whisper of litigation (even temp agencies). so to minimize risk as much as possible they usually take the road well-traveled and say no to anything resembling risk while not exposing themselves to litigation because they called someone a risk. (get it?) <BR/><BR/>on the other hand, another opportunity presented itself that was advantageous to you and you took it. this was a wise decision.<BR/><BR/>ChurchGal thinks - always follow your gut (intuition, Spirit, discernment, whatever.) i've been on enough interviews while wondering, ok jesus - what the hell now? and, sure enough, while i'm pragmatic enough to consider all opportunities, i always know that if i'm truly discerning of the Spirit (and open to what God's will in my life is), then i'll be where i'll be.<BR/><BR/>and are you feeling 'guilty' about the lost opportunity or disappointing the USC contact? or are the feelings sort of hurt-y that the agency declined and that the USC contact might not think well of you? if it's any of these things, it's totally natural (we always want people to like us) but there's nothing wrong with looking out for our well-being first.Delia Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00433503510087047283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1153245255120805332006-07-18T10:54:00.000-07:002006-07-18T10:54:00.000-07:00No, thank you! What you said is wonderful!No, thank you! What you said is wonderful!Stasihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10864458542635159512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1153241836893983772006-07-18T09:57:00.000-07:002006-07-18T09:57:00.000-07:00I get it. Always, in the back of my mind, is the ...I get it. Always, in the back of my mind, is the conviction that I can take on any task, every opportunity offered, if only I dedicate a little more time and effort...and therefore I'm obligated to take it on and go for it and not doing so is somehow wimping out. Mutually exclusive obligations just tear me up, because I struggle like the dickens to figure how to make them compatible rather than simply recognize that one or the other isn't doable.<BR/><BR/>You're not wimping out. And neither am I, when I take the summer off from dissertation work to learn how to be a mom. <BR/><BR/>Maybe think of stepping back from the USC job as a way of making room for someone else to answer God's call to that responsibility. And maybe keep in mind too that answering God's call isn't always unambiguously joyous (some of those OT prophets really agonized...)<BR/><BR/>I feel a little preachy, which makes me uncomfortable. Maybe I just should have written "don't feel bad."JTBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05977180734561873789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1153189084460652962006-07-17T19:18:00.000-07:002006-07-17T19:18:00.000-07:00You're overthinking. Where was your commitment? ...You're overthinking. Where was your commitment? To the USC job, or to the mentor who might have the job? In fact at the time you made your decision you made it on the basis of the best information you had: that you would be, at least for the temp agency, an "uncceptable" candidate. So, you dropped what seemed a sure loss, and accepted what seemed a sure gain. Moreover, you had no certainty that the other efforts they might make would have worked any better than the former.<BR/><BR/>In the meantime, you had the opportunity to pray yourself, and to hear a call that seemed in itself rooted in prayer - a call that would give you professional grounding in the ministry and the church to which you feel called. You have a sense of God talking to you, and you feel guilty about answering?<BR/><BR/>No? Then, what do you feel guilty about? Because, Beloved, that seems to be the question.Marshall Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02807749717320495495noreply@blogger.com