tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post110675692713753886..comments2023-09-19T07:50:13.308-07:00Comments on Feminary: What is Christian Sex?Stasihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10864458542635159512noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1161702294325857212006-10-24T08:04:00.000-07:002006-10-24T08:04:00.000-07:00I am in a relationship with a married man that his...I am in a relationship with a married man that his wife has multiple sclerosis and has been in a nursing home for over 10 years. I am divorced 1 year. both of us have not had sex due to our partner's situation, and even though I have a divorce decree(piece of paper that says I'm divorced,(I'm Catholic), and I believe that thru the eyes of God, I am still married-a lifelong committment, yet, I can't have any other type relationship with my ex-husband thanfriendship.<BR/>My friend and I met, it was instant attraction, very VERY INTENSE, a situation neither of us were looking for, yet it happened. We have entered into a sexual relationship, we were both very alone and lonely, and this relationship has made such a big difference in our lives. We still know of our committment, we talk about our marriage partners, very open. Both feel guilty, yet, we want to be together in some way for the rest of our lives. Why would the Lord put us in this situation, make our lives better, and happier, we still bear our Cross, a sin is a sin, but is this a sin for wanting comfort, compassion, love? My marriage ended due to an abusive relationship, I haven't ever know intimacy in it's true form until now. I don't know what to do, if I lose him, my life goes back to being in "Hell", taking anti-depressives, I don't want to go back there. Anyone want to help me?<BR/>AnonymousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1157600330938675682006-09-06T20:38:00.000-07:002006-09-06T20:38:00.000-07:001. non-denominational2. It seems that a definition...1. non-denominational<BR/>2. It seems that a definition of Christian Sex would stem from what Jesus taught about sex. However, if I recall, he didn't say much on the topic. Something about plucking one's eye out if it causes one to lust. <BR/><BR/>I find this to be parallel to Jesus' comments on worship. He didn't say much about worship but what he DID say didn't communicate much about particular 'forms' for it. <BR/><BR/>Likewise, I'd say according to Jesus, sex fits in the 'human' category, not the 'Christian' or 'religious' category. It has certain functional boundaries, but may be broader in form than many of us might care to entertain.<BR/><BR/>Of course, one could go another route and say that "Christian Sex" is the way Christians - in reality - have sex. In this case, the sky's the limit since we all know that Christians participate in all forms of particularly 'non-Christian' behavior.e.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10066631578139908666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1124026265537589872005-08-14T06:31:00.000-07:002005-08-14T06:31:00.000-07:00my wife and i are lost as to what christian sex is...my wife and i are lost as to what christian sex is we like a lot of what would be wild sex in some areas ... We are ones that would like a list of things that are ok with God and bible re. to back it up can anyone helpAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1122873304463505792005-07-31T22:15:00.000-07:002005-07-31T22:15:00.000-07:001) United Methodist2) One thing I noticed that ha...1) United Methodist<BR/><BR/>2) One thing I noticed that has not been commented on-- I have been doing some research on this, and "Christian Sex", as Paul wrote in I Corinthians, is sacrificial in nature--you literally are giving a part of yourself to your spouse, and what better way than to show them how much you love them? I must agree, though, that "Christian Sex" and a Christian having sex are not the same thing. Christian Sex is done within the boundaries of a committed relationship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1111500783314080302005-03-22T06:13:00.000-08:002005-03-22T06:13:00.000-08:00I find it interesting that so many of the bloggers...I find it interesting that so many of the bloggers here associate "Christian" and "sex" with Saturday-night, lights-out, flannel-only, in-the-missionary-position sex. The most definitive study of sexuality ever done, the "Sex in America" study, found that couples in committed monogamous relationships reported the highest levels of sexual satisfaction. Evangelical women topped that list. So it turns out the "prudes" are actually having more fun than the Playboy bunnies. The idea that most Christians think sex is dirty or bad certainly does not bear itself out in the research.<BR/><BR/>Sandi, co-author, Sexual Intimacy in Marriageaspire2https://www.blogger.com/profile/11559340357457209175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1108985431233711522005-02-21T03:30:00.000-08:002005-02-21T03:30:00.000-08:00Where do you get your info?Where do you get your info?Jack Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02795237301625999594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1107366553908376492005-02-02T09:49:00.000-08:002005-02-02T09:49:00.000-08:001. Charismatic
2. I'm surprised nobody has come up...1. Charismatic<br />2. I'm surprised nobody has come up with the definition which has currency in our community - 'Christain Sex' is where a couple do everything other than have sex because it's 'not a sin' if they aren't actually having penetrative sex. Also known as 'Evangelical Sex', mostly by people who have a chip on their shoulder about Evangelicals.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1106959426883124842005-01-28T16:43:00.000-08:002005-01-28T16:43:00.000-08:001. background: anglican as a child, mennonite as a...1. background: anglican as a child, mennonite as an adult, sometimes evangelical always liberal<br /><br />2. Christian Sex: what i will finally be allowed to talk about with the other already married women my age when I finally get married. currently, what cannot really be mentioned or discusses seriously or experientially with those not officially initiated (ie. married).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1106802604697280412005-01-26T21:10:00.000-08:002005-01-26T21:10:00.000-08:001. Raised protestant, now agnostic.
2. Christian ...1. Raised protestant, now agnostic.<br /><br />2. Christian sex means that a man and a woman wait until they are married to have sex. Few people (including most Christians) actually have this kind of sex though. Supposedly, it's superior to other kinds of "sinful" sex. But I haven't figured out how they know for sure that it's better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1106787331122227382005-01-26T16:55:00.000-08:002005-01-26T16:55:00.000-08:001. Raised atheist, then Catholic, now Episcopalian...1. Raised atheist, then Catholic, now Episcopalian.<br />2. I've changed my mind a million times on Christian sex. I now believe it is sex that takes place in a context where the folks involved are completely committed to supporting each other through all of the possible emotional, physical, and spiritual outcomes of their experience together. I also think it is characterized by honesty and by a desire to share joy and pleasure. It also must include a willingness to laugh even in the midst of the passion...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1106777007759601802005-01-26T14:03:00.000-08:002005-01-26T14:03:00.000-08:00Grew up Baptist, now am on the outskirts of instit...Grew up Baptist, now am on the outskirts of institutional Christianity.<br /><br />Christian Sex? I really don't know either. I know that what I was taught was not healthy or helpful. I don't accept that the only good (good as in right) sex is only within marriage. But I also see a lot of kids participating in sex that is not healthy for them, either emotionally or physically. <br /><br />Ironically, i think that Christianity so elevates marriage and marital sex that when people get married they expect some amazing experience, both in the bedroom and out. Instead they find the mundane in both and are deeply disappointed. I think it is very hard to talk about sex and spirituality and expect that people can make those two compatible immediately. <br /><br />Long winded answer, I know. In sum, I think that christian sex is sex between two adults who care deeply about each other, do not use each other (either sexually or emotionally), and who see something beyond sex in that relationship. I doubt that happens in cheating relationships, or between teenagers, but certainly can happen with adults (both gay and straight), married or unmarried.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8428685.post-1106760715773572312005-01-26T09:31:00.000-08:002005-01-26T09:31:00.000-08:001. Congregational/UCC; nothing (the "decade of da...1. Congregational/UCC; nothing (the "decade of darkness"); Episcopalian; Presbyterian (PCUSA); Episcopalian.<br /><br />2. Christian sex (i.e., within the sacrament we call holy matrimony, so I'd call it sacramental sex) goes well beyond the physical and encompases all aspects - physical, mental, spiritual - of the realtionship, which was made before God by exchanging vows. It's between two people for whom God is an integral part of their relationship. Do all married Christians experience sacramental sex? I doubt it.<br /><br />Back in that "decade of darkness" I did quite a few unsacramental things. I can now say with certainty, however, that "good" sex has less to do with technique and more to do with the overall nature of the relationship. It has just as much (if not more) to do with my heart and my head as it does with my genitals.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com